Start where things
stopped making sense
If you’re here, you’re probably not looking for motivation, hacks, or another system to optimize your life.
You’re likely trying to understand why things that look good on paper don’t hold up in real life, and what to do about that without forcing yourself or burning out.
This page exists to help you start without pressure.
WHAT THIS WORK IS ABOUT
My work is about building habits and lives that make sense when the world doesn’t.
Not by fixing yourself.
Not by escaping reality.
And not by pretending everything is fine.
But by:
understanding why your struggle makes sense
taking responsibility without self-punishment
questioning defaults that don’t serve you
and designing habits and systems for real life
You don’t need a full reset.
You need a starting point that helps you orient yourself and choose how you want to move forward.
HOW TO THINK ABOUT STARTING
There is no single right way to begin.
All the tools and courses here are designed to stand on their own, and you can begin wherever you feel drawn.
Before you look at the options, you might pause and ask yourself:
Where does my experience feel heavier than expected?
What feels like it’s not working because of me, and what feels like
it’s not working because of conditions?Do I want to explore this on my own or with support?
These questions aren’t tests.
They’re orientation, a way to locate where you are right now.
EXPLORATION PATHS
Orientation
When Habits Stop Making Sense
A short orientation for people trying to change in a world that doesn’t always cooperate.
This is a good starting point if:
you keep blaming yourself for habits that don’t stick
you feel like you’re pushing against something invisible
you want to understand why things feel harder than they should
What it gives you:
Relief, clarity, and a more honest starting point.
Deconditioning
Untangling the Shoulds
A reflective workbook to separate your own values from inherited pressure.
This works well if:
your goals feel heavy or pressured
you’re carrying expectations that aren’t yours
you want to take responsibility without living on autopilot
What it gives you:
Clarity about which expectations you’re ready to question.
Identity
Choosing What You Stand For
A practice for defining who you want to be without fantasy or pressure.
This matters if:
you’re tired of chasing future versions of yourself
you want decisions to feel more grounded
you want directions that fit your real life
What it gives you:
A small set of identity anchors you can actually stand behind on imperfect days.
Habit Design
Bad-Day Habit Design
A tool for building habits that still work when energy, time, or motivation don’t.
This is useful if:
you keep restarting habits
routines only work on good days
you want systems that reduce friction instead of relying on willpower
What it gives you:
One or two habits designed for reality, including a plan for repair when things break.
GUIDED SUPPORT
If you want structure, pacing, and a small group to walk with, there’s a guided starting point.
Building Your First Island of Sanity
A 4-week course for people who want to build habits and a life that make sense when the world doesn’t.
This course helps you:
understand why your struggle makes sense
choose who you want to be under real constraints
design habits for imperfect days
build one small area of life that feels calmer and more intentional
You don’t need to do everything.
You don’t need to do this perfectly.
You don’t need to rush.
You just need a place to start that feels honest and workable.
If that’s what you’re looking for, you’re in the right place.
THE TRAVELLING COACH
Sarah Will
C/ Jose Manaut Viglietti 3
46024 Valencia
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